Monday, 2 August 2021

Work & Life Hanging in the Balance

It’s 5pm, officially the end of the working day. Time to recharge, relax, reconnect with family. It’s 7pm and my smartphone pings. School sends a meeting reminder for the next morning. 9pm and another beep goes off, it’s the extracurricular head wanting to know if the online posters for a Language Carnival are ready. 9.30pm and an emergency Google Meet is called with the head of clubs to delegate duties before a school meeting the following week. 11pm, and a feeble apology precedes an all-important question about the contents of one online brochure. At 11.30pm, I find myself at the laptop, editing a series of silly looking flyers to be sent via Telegram for immediate approval. The faulty and erratic air-conditioning abruptly turns on, sending fresh chills through my body. The next day even the slightest buzz notification on my phone is enough to set off a panic attack.

            For most, home used to mean detaching oneself from work and retiring to your own life and family. A chance to relax, unwind and most importantly, allow the brain to rest and recuperate. The pandemic, however, has brought about a huge shift which has resulted in us not just bringing our work home, but working from home while living at home, with people from home in the confines of home. “Home” has lost its special all-important separateness. Work stress is now experienced live at the kitchen table. Disagreements about office matters are handled professionally while pacing in the living room. Suddenly, we find ourselves simultaneously juggling work and everyday life, without a functioning power button. Just like my erratic air-con unit, work functioned in the same unpredictable manner, blasting out cold, unfeeling work emails and announcements round the clock. 

Before the advent of distance learning in Malaysian secondary schools, teaching and admin duties were strictly communicated and carried out within working hours which means if it was not finished by the final bell, we’d pick it up the next day. In recent months, with everything available and communicable online, the boundaries have somehow become increasingly blurred. Schools at times assume to have the right to your immediate attention 24/7.  In an effort to close the gap between parent–student-admin, teachers’ phone numbers have become “public property”. Class WhatsApp and Telegram groups are mandatory to disseminate information, to share important messages, to be observed and monitored. To add to that, at least 10 admin-related groups exist to coordinate e-activities, schedule e-meetings and e-competitions. On the one hand, communication has never been more efficient, organised and time saving. On the other, in embracing this new normal, we have forgotten the most important ground rule of respectful communication.

Timing is everything.

Inspiration hits people at different times and that’s okay. What is NOT okay is to go on a texting spree, at 2 in the morning just because you are super charged and fired up about a project. In fact, sending out your rapid-fire messages at odd hours and expecting immediate responses is both cruel and absurd. If you are in a senior or more authoritative role, it puts the recipient in a very awkward position of either feeling like they are directly disrespecting you by not replying immediately, or less proactive because they are not responding with the same level of speed and enthusiasm you are. Contrary to the expectation of increased productivity, this expectation of on-demand replies can actually have adverse effects on the overall efficacy of the unit, as illustrated in the following paragraph.

To begin with, staying connected to work after hours can lead to a very overwhelmed and stressed-out staff. The reason is simple. If one is meant to respond ASAP, regardless of the time, then no hour is “safe enough” to relax, to truly be at home, the term after work ceases to hold any meaning. Instead, it’s a constant feeling of high alert whenever a project is around the corner, or a meeting is due. Never being able to just silence your phone for fear of being accused as “uncontactable” or “unavailable”, we have conditioned ourselves to check every text, email, notification and broadcast message. As a result, home activities like dinner, or conversing with family members, take a backseat as we remain tethered to work, unable to disconnect, disable and destress.

For the most part, this letter is calling for stricter observations of after work communication policies or erecting some if none. It is a plea to schools (and any organizations for that matter) to start prioritising work-life balance of their staff. Now more than ever, as we have brought work home, there is a need to establish clear non-negotiable boundaries between work and home life. As it can directly affect mental health and performance of any group, stability between the two cannot be taken lightly. Many employees have become so accustomed to this way of life, that it is second nature to them to “quickly deal with it” irrespective of the ungodly hour work might rear its ugly head.

If you find yourself a swamped and often burnt out victim of these invasive tech-“friendly” times, it’s time you took a step back and put yourself first. Whether it is as extreme as turning off data and Wi-Fi or simply muting certain job-related groups, you will begin to value and furiously guard your right to separation from work after hours. Just remember, unless it is a matter of life and death, you don’t owe anyone a response if a “ping!” drops in the middle of the night.

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